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Proverbs 6:20

My son, keep thy father’s commandment,
and forsake not the law of thy mother.

 

Wisdom in relationships - Sex

We read today: Proverbs 6:20-35

20 My son, keep your father’s commandment, and forsake not the law of your mother:  21 Bind them continually upon your heart, and tie them around your neck.  22 When you go, it shall lead you; when you sleep, it shall keep you; and when you are awake, it shall talk with you.  23 For the commandment is a lamp; and the law is light; and reproofs of instruction are the way of life:  24 To keep you from the evil woman, from the flattery of the tongue of a strange woman.  25 Lust not after her beauty in your heart; neither let her take you with her eyelids.  26 For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: and the adulteress will hunt for the precious life.  27 Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned?  28 Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned?  29 So he that goes in to his neighbor’s wife; whosoever touches her shall not be innocent.  30 Men do not despise a thief, if he steals to satisfy his soul when he is hungry;  31 But if he is found, he shall restore sevenfold; he shall give all the substance of his house.  32 But whoso commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding: he that does it destroys his own soul.  33 A wound and dishonor shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away.  34 For jealousy is the rage of a man: therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance.  35 He will not regard any ransom; neither will he rest content, though you give many gifts.

Three different aspects concerning fornication.

  1. The Possibility of fornication. (Prov 6:20-24a)

    1. Fornication is a great sin.

      1. Adultery is one form.
         

    2. Dangerous feeling - "It can never happen to me."

      1. Pastor on survey: "When I was a younger pastor, I did not take the temptation seriously. Only after I fell did I become aware".
         

    3. Many have fallen to it:

      1. David, with the greatest heart.

      2. Solomon, with the greatest mind.

        1. Prov.7:26
          "Many strong men have been slain by her."

      3. Stats for our times:

        1. Depends on survey.

          1. Pastors, 12%.
            (a third of time, no consequences.)

          2. Some, 33%.

          3. Others, 66%. (Playboy)

        2. Interesting, men more likely than women.

          1. So who do men do it with?

          2. Bad girls must be really bad.

            1. Proverbs calls her the
              "adulterous woman."
               

    4. Greece, New Hampshire eliminates penalties.

      1. Far cry from scarlet letter.

      2. But God is very concerned about it.

        1. Ultimate image of spiritual sin.
           

  2. The Protection against fornication. (Prov.6:24b-25)

    1. Avoid flattering tongue. (Prov.6:24b)

      1. See also Prov.7:21 "Fair speech causes him to yield"

      2. See also Prov.5:3. "Her lips drip honey."

      3. Spouses need encouragement.

        1. Otherwise Satan may provide it for them.

        2. Spouses, beware and avoid trap.
           

    2. Avoid fleshly beauty. (Prov.6:25a)

      1. Does formerly stylish mate become lazy, sloppy?

      2. Men have a natural tendency to be attracted.

        1. Leadership Journal survey:

          1. 78 % of wandering pastors - Physical and
            emotional attractiveness.

          2. 41 % dissatisfaction with marriage.

      3. Nevertheless, this is no excuse to wander.

        1. Avoid sexually explicit material that may make your mind wander after another's fleshly beauty.

        2. Here, lust is a step into danger.

          1. In New Testament, lust is a sin in itself.
             

    3. Avoid fooling eyes. (Prov.6:26b)

      1. More explicit - eyelashes.

        1. Eyes are powerful communicators.

      2. Dangers of flirting.

        1. Not harmless, but easy to rationalize.
           

    4. Avoid fondling touch. (Prov.6:27)

      1. There is great power in a touch or embrace.

        1. Stressed for parents, teachers, preachers.

          1. Mother calms a frightened child.

          2. Companion - I am with you.

        2. Lets people know you care.

      2. Outside marriage -dynamite.
         

  3. The Problems with fornication. (Prov.6:26-35)

    1. Defiled.

      1. Reduced to a piece of bread. (Prov.6:26)

      2. Defiles self. Something lost forever.

      3. Defiles spouse, a trusted comrade, (Prov.2:17)

        1. Closest of friends.

        2. Example of young Christian wife:
          Suzanne Miller, 8 months pregnant, finds out husband is having an affair. Both are Christians, as is the woman he is involved in. She feels she has suffered from the ultimate betrayal, but does not want to end up bitter. She decides to forgive and in a few years achieves it.
          In the end she is able to help other women who are going through divorces.
           

    2. Despised. (Prov.6:30)

      1. Adultery can be forgiven, but should never be condoned.

      2. Denounced by society?
        If not, society is decadent.         (Jer.5:7-9)
         

    3. Destroyed. (Prov.6:32)

      1. Loss of possessions. (Prov.6:26)

      2. Wastes best years. (Prov.5:9,11)

        1. Grass not greener on other side.

      3. Physical danger. (Prov.6:26, 32-35)

      4. Sears the sinner. (Prov.6:27-29,33b)
         

    4. Dishonored. (Prov.6:33)

      1. Become one flesh? (1Cor.7)

      2. Dr. Benjamin Spock, dumps wife for young thing.
        Makes himself look bad.
         

  4. Good advice.

    1. Heed warnings of Scripture. (Prov.6:22)

    2. No one wants a cheating spouse.

      1. Make sure they don't have one, either.

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